It's normal to have many different feelings if you have an unintended pregnancy (you're pregnant when you weren't expecting to be). For some people it might be clear what to do, for others making a decision might be difficult.
Thinking about the answer to some of these questions might help you make a decision about being pregnant:
- Does this fit with my plans for my life from here?
- Would a pregnancy and baby change my plans?
- What about my education and career?
- How do I feel about being responsible for a child?
- Is this a good time to have a baby?
- Do I have the skills and support to parent a baby and child?
- What is my relationship with the person I got pregnant with? Do I want to remain connected to them through a child? Will they help me whatever I decide to do?
- Am I ready to be a parent?
- Is my family already complete?
- Will I tell my parents? My whānau? Will they support me whatever I decide?
- If I have the baby who will help me? Where will I live? Where will the money come from?
- Is there someone in my whānau who could support me and my child, or would want to raise my baby?
- How do I feel about adoption, guardianship or whāngai? Is there another option that might work for me?
- How do I feel about having an abortion?
- Do I really understand my options?
- Have I given myself a chance to think things through?
What are my pregnancy options?
If you're pregnant, you have a number of options.